Part of the joy of writing erotica is the joy of expressing sexuality in words. Sexuality is a great lens through which to view the world. Just like we're all spiritual beings and political beings and creative beings, we are also all sexual beings. All of us. That is incredible to think about, isn't it?
Just think. Everyone has this lens. Maybe I should say most people have this lens. I am blessed to have a couple of asexual people in my life and I like to hear their perspectives, too. Anyway, most of us have a connection to our own sexuality. Some of us are still in the process of discovering what feels right and others have found it.
Sexuality is such a powerful part of the human experience. When it's right, it feeds the soul in ways that nothing else can. A pure and beautiful connection between lovers can be a transcendent experience. Conversely, repressive sex-negative views can really stifle a soul's growth. More and more, I find the link between physical and spiritual blatantly obvious.
One of the best things you can do for yourself as a person going through this human experience is to find out how you wish to express yourself sexually. In finding sexual satisfaction you actually find so much more.
Writing erotica these past few months has allowed me to feel complete in ways that I haven't felt for a while. I used to sell sex toys and lube etc. That job allowed me the privilege of peeking into other people's sex lives. That was great fun. When I left that job for something more career-like, it took me a long time to figure out that I really missed looking at people as sexual beings. I missed delving into the details.
I feel much better now that I'm exploring the human experience in this way, looking into bedrooms (this time of my own creation) to see what's going on in the minds, hearts and bodies of characters who intrigue me. Writing erotica is fictional voyeurism.
